10 Easy Ways To Enjoy Being A Single Christian
As Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, I thought this would be a wonderful opportunity to share some more encouragement to the single ladies out there! Although I don’t personally celebrate Valentine’s Day, for many others, they might start to feel a sense of loneliness around this time. I want to share some words of encouragement for you today to lift your spirits and help you get on the right track – mentally, emotionally and spiritually speaking. Let’s take a look at how we can enjoy being a single Christian.
What are the Struggles for Single Christians?
Being a single Christian isn’t the end-all-be-all. For many of us, we desire to get married and start a family. We even may have a certain plan or timeline all worked out, hoping that things will turn around for us in such manner. However, we need to let go of any self-made plans or timelines we have made for wanting to be married and start a family by, and start focusing on putting God first in our lives.
There are quite a few struggles that many single Christians face on the daily such as feeling lonely, unwanted, and unsure of what the future may hold for them. They’re online on social media and see such happy married Christian couples living [what seems to be] such a wonderful life together. But the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
We focus too much on our emotions and insecurities when we are single, rather than keeping the focus on God. That’s why you may not be able to enjoy being a single Christian.
Our lives shouldn’t be revolved around waiting to get with someone and be married. Nor should it be about obsessing, idolizing or even coveting what others have. God has a perfect plan and purpose for YOU. It is up to you to submit to Him in order to allow all of that to unfold in your life.
What are the pros of being a Single Christian?
Being alone can be good. Jesus spent time alone to pray to God. Paul was one of the greatest apostles and was single. Not everyone is destined for marriage. And when you are in this season of singleness, there are so many important and valuable lessons to learn.
God will place us in this exact spot and moment for a reason. Our struggles and trials have meaning to them. What is it that you can learn in this season that you are in? What is God trying to teach you?
For me, I have been single for over seven years now. It got easier as I surrendered to the Lord and put Him first in my life. I became content and happy on my own. I enjoy my own company and space, too.
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Lessons to Learn
There are a lot of lessons that I have learned over the seven years. It was important for me to be on my own and learn these things. Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we get distracted. Our focus can shift from God to this person as top priority. When you are single, however, putting God first isn’t as much of a struggle. There aren’t as many distractions per say.
You get to spend more time with God during this season. There will be many trials and hardships that you will face, but it will only strengthen your faith and trust in God. There will even be more spiritual warfare, especially if you are a single mom such as myself. The devil tends to target single parent (or single mother) homes more.
You need to stand strong in the Lord. Don’t forget who is most important in your life, and also knows what is and isn’t best for you. God could be protecting you from being with the wrong person. He could be blocking attacks from the enemy without you even knowing about it. Trust Him.
How Can Someone Enjoy Being Single?
How can you enjoy being a single Christian? Well, it is up to you on whether or not you are going to enjoy this season of being on your own. You have the power to determine whether or not you are going to choose to be happy or sad about it.
We can either get all sad and anxious and impatient, or become envious of others’ situations over ours, or we can say to ourselves, “no, I am not going to let this bring me down, or hinder my relationship with God”.
Be kind to yourself. Choose to speak life over yourself. There is power in the tongue. There is also power in the thoughts we have. Change your mindset. Shift your focus from being self-centered about this, to being God-centered about it.
God’s Will, not yours, God’s Timing, not yours. God’s Ways over your own ways.
10 Easy Ways To Enjoy Being a Single Christian
Here are 10 easy ways to enjoy being a single Christian each and every day!
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Trust God Completely
Matthew 6:33 – “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”.
In order to enjoy being a single Christian, God must always come first in your life. No matter what season you are in or what you are going through. Whether you are single or dating or married. God must always come first and be the first priority.
2. Set Your Eyes on Jesus
Hebrews 12:2 – ““Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God”.
Always set your eyes on Jesus. He is number one in your life. Put God first in all that you do. Trust Him completely.
3. Enjoy The Season You Are In
Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:”
You are in this season for a reason. We should never rush jumping from one chapter of our lives to another. Trust the Author of your life. See what you can learn during this time. It is a wonderful experience because you get to draw closer to Him and strengthen your faith in Him, too.
4. See What You Can Learn During This Season
What is God teaching you during this season? What are some things that you can work on or learn?
5. Stay Positive
Romans 12:12 – “Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;”
I know exactly what you are feeling – lonely, sad, unsure about the future. You’re getting older and being in this season of singleness for longer now. When is it your turn…Trust me. I completely understand. But you need to stay positive and content. God says to be content in all things. We shouldn’t be obsessing over marriage; we have to give it all to God in prayer and let Him sort it all out. He has a perfect plan for us in our lives. So start to enjoy being a Christian!
6. Don’t Lose Hope
Romans 15:13 – “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost”.
Spend each day glorifying God and putting Him first. We aren’t promised tomorrow. Each day is such a wonderful blessing from God, so don’t lose hope. And don’t lose sight of who truly matters more than getting married, either.
7. Serve Others (Get involved at Church/Ministry)
1 Peter 4:10 – “As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God”.
Spend this time serving others, whether it be at Church, or in ministry. Love your neighbors, and do good to others. Use your spiritual gifts that God has given you to help and to serve in the community.
8. Don’t Worship or Idolize Marriage
Galatians 2:20 – “I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me”.
Unfortunately, for some Christians, they will worship or idolize marriage. They think it is the ultimate thing to have or achieve in their life. But in doing this, you lose sight of what truly matters the most, and that is your faith in God. Not all of us are destined to get married. It is something that you might have to come to terms with. But never go down the path of worshipping or idolizing marriage over your faithfulness towards God.
9. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end”.
Stop comparing your life to the lives of others. Get off social media if you have to. The grass is greener where you water it. Focus on YOUR life and God’s Will for it. You need to stop thinking that your life would be better if you were with someone, or that your life would be nicer if it looked like this married Christian couple you see online.
You don’t truly know what they are going through behind closed doors. And you should never assume it’s perfect, either.
God created YOU. You are unique. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. There is no one else like you. And His plan and purpose for you is ONLY FOR YOU. Rejoice and be glad in this truth!
10. Practice Self-Care
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s”.
Do you practice self-care? There are so many wonderful ways to practice self-care in a Biblical manner. This will help you spend more time with God and nourish your soul. Check out these 20 self-care tips!
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