The Best Advice For Single Christian Women

The Best Advice For Single Christian Women

To the single Christian women who are reading this, you are not alone. I, myself, am a Single Christian woman, and have been single for over four years now. Before I get into detail about my past, I want to let you know that this advice that I am going to share with you is from everything that I have learnt over the years, and what I believe God wants me to do in my life. It is also something that I wish someone else had told me before!

I will start with a background into my past relationship and how I got to be where I am today. I was twenty years old when I met my now ex-boyfriend, I wasn’t saved, and I also wasn’t looking for anything serious, because I had told myself that I didn’t want to get with anyone unless I was in love with them. I fell hard, and fast for this guy, and he, himself, was not a Christian either. We dated on and off for the first 6 months or so, and then when we got back together, we moved in together and things took a turn for the worst after that. 

Basically, I had gotten into a relationship with a toxic individual who ended up abusing me, controlling me and manipulating me and my emotions. I had lost contact with my friends, and was drifting apart from my family too. We did become Christian (at least I was the sincere born-again Christian) and started studying the Bible and preaching to others. My ex was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. He claimed to be Christian but that wasn’t the case, especially with everything that I had gone through with him, and everything that he had done to me and to others too. 

Throughout everything that I had gone through (and I won’t go into detail here), I remained faithful to God. My faith had actually strengthened through these difficult times, which I am very thankful for to this day. 

Just over two and a half years had passed since we moved in together, and there was a breaking point in which God had given me a way out. After I had left my ex, I moved back home with my parents, I was pregnant, and I had no friends nearby or other kind of support. I did, however, have my Bible, and my faith in God, and from then up until this day I have really matured and grown in the faith, and learned so much about what I had gone through and what God is wanting from me now. 

I took a lot of time to heal, to reflect and look back upon what I had gone through and to see the truth of it all. I believed so many lies, and stayed for all the wrong reasons, but I am here now, nearly four years later, and I am the happiest and healthiest I have ever been. (And I am sure that there are other single Christian women out there who are content with being single, and feel happier that way too!)

It took going through a lot of hardships to be able to see that doing whatever we want in our life is just no the right approach. The right way to do things is to submit to God and to do everything in accordance to His Will and not our own. What I mean by this is that I do not believe that God wanted me to be with this person. But with everything that we go through in life, it is all a testing ground, and we can see what we can learn from these experiences. I now believe that my ex was a tormentor that kept me in check regarding my faith in God (similar to when Paul had his tormentor when he was in prison). I say this because no matter what he put me through and what I had to endure, I never turned away from God. 

The reason why I have shared this with you all is because being single can be a blessing in disguise. It is better to be single than to be with the wrong person. It is better to spend time on maturing and growing in the faith and becoming a better person, a better Christian, and completely submitting to and obeying God, rather than following the world and doing whatever you want. 

I wasn’t saved when all of this first started. I believed that God existed but that was about it. I was walking blindly in this world, and God was able to save me and pull me out of the darkness, not only for my personal sake regarding leaving my ex, but also saving my soul from going to hell. 

There will be people in this world who want to bring you down, tear you apart, drag you through the darkness and blind you from the light. They can come in many different ways into your life, disguised as something else. There are monsters in this world, demons, and we need to guard ourselves, we need to put on the armor of God and protect ourselves from these predators. 

This is my advice to all Single Christian Women:

1. Put God First In All Things No Matter What. Your faith is the most important thing above all else. Paul did this, for he was never married. 
2. Be Patient. People rush into the wrong relationships all the time. People rush into getting committed to one another, and that is not of God either. God is a patient God, He takes His time in doing all things for us and for this world. It takes time to get to know someone, just like it takes time for us to start out as babes in Christ before we mature in the faith. 
3. Do God’s Will And Not Your Own. Stop following the world, and start following the Word. Submit to God and ask for Him to guide you on the straight and narrow, and on the right path in your life. Allow Him to open the right doors for you and close the ones that need to be left shut. Don’t ever try to take matters into your own hands. I mean this is why I shared a bit about my background with you. 
4. Be Content In All Things. If God has wanted you to wait, or to remain single, then you need to be content with that. Perhaps He is protecting you from the wrong person, and saving you for the right one. Finding your soul mate and getting married to them is such a beautiful thing to experience, but just know that, like any other other relationship, it takes a lot of time, work and effort. It is not easy; it can be difficult, and heart-breaking too. So, stay content in all things no matter what. 
5. Have Faith And Pray Always. Trust God completely and pray to Him daily. Write down a prayer list for things that you want in a husband, if you are looking to get married. Pray over these things every day to God and ask Him to hear and answer your prayers. I do this every single night before bed. I wrote a prayer for my future husband and have been praying for him and thinking about him every single day since I wrote that prayer almost two years ago. Waiting sucks but that’s how it can be sometimes. Just know that “this too shall pass”. One day it will all be over and you will be able to experience what you pray for. It is much more worth it than wasting time on the wrong one, or rushing things with someone else. 

To the single Christian women who are waiting on their future husband, please listen to what I have to say and take it all in with a grain of salt. Pray over what you have read, and give your heart to God. Allow Him to help you through this time of singleness. I understand what it’s like to feel lonely, and unsure of whether or not you will get married, or meet your special someone any time soon. You might feel as though time is running out. Please have faith in God and pray to Him. Talk to Him and let Him know what is on your mind. He is always there for us, for we are His children. 

I also encourage all single Christian women to speak up and share their advice and encouragement with others! I want to hear your story of singleness and how you are feeling during this time! Let me know in the comments below!

If you want more encouragement, check out these empowering Bible verses for Single women!

Stay encouraged.

God Bless.