The Ultimate Guide To Self-Love For Christian Women

The Ultimate Guide To Self-Love For Christian Women

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Self-love is an important topic for us as Christians to understand. I do not believe it is talked about as much as it should, within the Churches and Christian community. The best kind of love (aside from the perfect love of God) is when you learn to accept and love yourself for who you are; for how you have been created. In particular, it is very important for us Christian women to take care of ourselves and love ourselves. 

One of the golden rules from Jesus is to love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:39). He is telling us to love our neighbors, the same way that we are to love ourselves. How we treat others can be symbolic for how we treat ourselves, too. This is the foundation for my beliefs about self-love for Christians.

Self-love can be a difficult journey to go through, especially for women, and that is why I am writing about this. I want to share all about what self-love is, the importance of self-love and how to learn to love yourself as a Christian woman. 

• Why is self-love important?

Self-love is important because it helps you know your worth. It helps you accept yourself for who you truly are, and to never change yourself for anyone or anything else. How can we learn to love others if we do not love ourselves? We deserve the same kind of love that we so freely give to others. 

God gives us the perfect example of what love is, and that is through His love for us. His love for us is unconditional and never-failing. He created us all fearfully and wonderfully; we are all unique and special and created with a purpose here on earth. We need to see ourselves the same way that God sees us, and love ourselves, the same way that God loves us too. 

• My Self-Love Story

This is going to be very personal but I am sharing this with you to encourage you on your self-love journey. As I may have mentioned in times past, I am a single mom. I was in a bad relationship with the father of my child, and when I left, I had to start all over again. I lost my identity, my sense of self worth and I didn’t love myself. Heck, I didn’t even like myself. I was so damaged from the past relationship that it really affected how I saw myself. 

It took a few years to come to where I am in life now, through a lot of prayers, counseling, guidance, encouragement and support from friends. There was a lot of time spent on healing, and feeling/getting better not just physically speaking but emotionally, mentally and spiritually too. 

We all face different trials and hardships in our lives, but we should never feel discouraged from loving and accepting ourselves for who we are. Self-love is a very important for becoming the very person that you want to be in this world. It may feel like there is a void in your life, and that someone else can fill that void with their love, but like I said before, you need to learn to love yourselves first.

Only Jesus can fill that void. He gives you the truest and highest quality of selfless love. 

In the case of being a parent, a mother, even a single mom, such as myself, self-love is so important in order to get through postpartum depression, and not losing yourself when giving birth to another human being. That is why I pushed through and did everything that I could to make sure that I wasn’t trapped from postpartum depression, or PTSD from my previous relationship. I moved forward, I fought to change the way that I see and believe myself to be.

I have been learning to love and accept myself for who I am and found my worth in Jesus.

Jesus helped me understand that loving myself and seeing myself the same way that God sees me is vital in my walk with Him. My worth is found in Christ; my strength and love is from Him. 

What is Self-Love?

To me, self-love is about learning to love and accept yourself for who you are. It is about loving the skin that you are in. You are learning to accept yourself for how God created you. It is about not wanting to change yourself on the inside or out for anyone or anything else. Put God first and do things that make you happy and encourage you to stay positive and motivated when starting this journey in self-love. 

• Self-love is all about making your own personal well-being and happiness a priority. You are taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing anything in order to please others or to put others before yourself. Self-love is about knowing your worth and never settling for anything less than what you deserve in your life.

How to get started 

• What do you need to get started?

The first thing that you need to do when starting your journey in self-love is to make sure that you focus on God above. Make sure that everything that you do is for God’s glory. Then, you need to commit to being on this self-love journey. Allow yourself enough time out of each day and space in your mind to change the way you think about yourself and making room for the love and acceptance that you deserve.

Next is to know that in order to love yourself you need to change your mindset. Cast down imaginations (negative thoughts) in the name of Jesus. Any kind of negative thought or feeling that you have about yourself, you need to tell it to leave and never give it any sort of leeway into your mind.

For example, let’s say that the devil is trying to put negative thoughts into my head and telling me that I am ugly and not worthy of love. Instead of entertaining that thought by dwelling on it and agreeing with it, I cast it out by saying “NO! I am a child of God. I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. I am loved by God and am beautiful”. I would not give that negative thought any time of day. I also would definitely not let the devil have a moment of my time by filling my mind up with negative thoughts (2 Corinthians 10:5).

Having a close friend or family member to keep you happy and encouraged with their positive words will do you wonders, also (and help keep you on the right track). 

Then there are many self-love activities that you can do to make sure that you are putting your well-being and happiness first and never settling for anything less. Think about something that you would love to do each day, or every so often, that will make you happy and bring you joy and know that you feel loved. Find time out of the day to fit whatever it is that you want to do, in to your schedule.

For more help on getting started, I have a FREE self-love guide for you to follow along with, that will keep you motivated! 

Tips for Success

• How can you be successful in Self-Love?

Be consistent. Stay committed. Never lose hope in yourself and never lose faith in God during this time. Keep the right circle of friends and family around you to keep you motivated and happy. Never feel as though you are being selfish or cruel for taking time out of the day to love yourself and fill your cup up first. 

Common Questions/FAQ About Self-Love

• What Are Examples Of Self-Love?

  • There are lots of different examples of self-love: be kind to yourself and to others, practice gratitude, journaling (to help with emotional health), treat yourself (buying things for yourself), do things that make you happy, do things that focus on bettering your personal self and well-being, start a hobby, take yourself out on a date, and most importantly, practice casting out those negative thoughts (imaginations) in the mind each day.

• How Do You Develop Self-Love?

  • The first step is to create a strong relationship with God and put Him first in your life. Allow Him to guide you on this journey into loving yourself and seeing yourself the same way that God sees and loves you. 
  • Wake up each day and start to practice casting out those negative thoughts (imaginations) in the mind.
  • You will also develop self-love through practicing different activities that will make you happy and learn to make you love and accept yourself for who you are. Practicing self-care will help you. Check out my posts on self-care here. Embrace your uniqueness and support yourself. Treat yourself the way that you want to be treated, and the way that you treat others. 

• Why Is Self-Love Important For Christian Women?

  • Self-love is so important because it helps us learn to accept, embrace and empathize with our true selves. We start to see ourselves the same way that God does. We learn to take care of ourselves, and put ourselves first again, and it encourages Christian women to look after themselves: mind, body and soul. We cannot run on empty forever, or else we will burn out.
  • We also cannot waste away our time here on earth hating ourselves, and nit-picking every single thing we don’t like about ourselves. 

• How Do You Know When You Love Yourself?

  • It all starts in the mind. Once you feel happy and content about who you are and where you are in life, and being happy for others too, you love yourself. You don’t want to change yourself, or feel jealous of others for who they are or what they have going on in their lives. You’ve accepted your unique self and the path that you are on, set by God. You are taking care of yourself and putting time aside each day to recharge, and you aren’t lowering your standards or falling for anything less worthy than you what you deserve. 
  • You are happy and content with the way that God created you. You become so thankful and appreciative of the person that God created you to be. You rejoice knowing that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, created in His image. 
  • You are no longer entertaining any negative thoughts from the devil. Your mind is filled with positive ones by God. 

• Why Is Self-Love Difficult?

  • Self-love can be difficult because there are so many negative influences in the world that try to make us believe that we need to be this perfect woman, perfect individual that has to look, act and feel a certain way. We feel discouraged by others who might be on a different or better path than us, and it’s only human to feel sad or jealous or worthless.
  • But just know that there is no one else like you in this world, and you don’t need to change yourself for anyone else either.
  • Don’t fall into the trap of these negative concepts in society. Just be you, just do you, just embrace your true self and learn to love and accept yourself for who you are. You deserve so much more, pretty lady, and never ever settle for anything less than what you deserve. 
  • The devil loves to mess with you, put negative thoughts into your head, and try to drag you down. Women are targeted because we are often the ones who struggle with our body image, and perception about ourselves. When we entertain those negative thoughts, it starts to bring us down, and takes us away from focusing on God and what He truly says about us. That is why you need to cast out those negative thoughts, and emotions in your mind, and replace them with positive ones, said by God Himself (just like with the example I gave above). 

The Last Thing You Need to Know 

• I’ve said it before and I will say it again: self-love is so important! Especially for Christian women. It can be a difficult journey to begin, but once you have started, you are going to feel so much better. You don’t need to be like another other person, any other Christian in this world. Just be yourself. Love yourself. There is no one else like you. Know your worth and get what you deserve! Treat yourself the same way that you treat others, and give yourself the same love that you give to others. 

Need help starting on your self-love journey? Or are unsure about what you can do to make you feel more happy and loved? I have created a FREE Self-Love Guide for all you Christian women to follow along with. Included in the Self-Love Guide is a more in-depth look at what self-love is, motivation and accountability on how you can begin your self-love journey, and over 30 ideas to add to your self-love journey. Subscribe below and I will send you the FREE Self-Love Guide to your inbox!